Courtney Paris

Hi, friend! I’m Courtney.

I’m an entrepreneur, writer, and ENFP from Michigan currently living in Vancouver, BC with my new husband. Welcome to my personal blog where I share what’s on my mind.

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Get Out of Your Own Way: The Exact Thoughts I'm Replacing in 2019

Get Out of Your Own Way: The Exact Thoughts I'm Replacing in 2019

One of my intentions for 2019 is to manifest my pants off. I won’t get into the mechanics behind manifesting, but I do want to make my case for why manifesting is NOT “woo woo” in the sense that it’s not about magical thinking. It’s about physics and psychology.

Throughout 2018 I’ve been working with a Tony Robbins Life Coach whom I hired at the Unleash the Power Within event in 2019. It has been POWERFUL work unraveling my thought patterns, values, and getting out of my own way.

It all comes down to this:

Thoughts create feelings create actions create results.

So if you’re not getting the results you want, it’s because you’re not taking the actions you need to take, which is because you’re not feeling the way you need to feel, which is because of your thoughts.

The great news is this: YOU can control your thoughts!

I’ve loved using this self-coaching model to analyze my current results (I believe it was originally created by Brooke Castillo), but it’s also the model I’m using to create the results I DESIRE.

So last night, I grabbed my notebook and started listing out all of the amazing things I want to experience in 2019 (and beyond). Things like…

  • Getting into the best shape of my life

  • Having a bi-weekly cleaner

  • Running another 1/2 marathon

  • Having $100,000 in the bank/invested

  • 4 week vacation in Europe

The list is long and I didn’t limit myself to what I believe is possible. I simply listed what I DESIRE.

But here’s where it gets interesting. After making the list of all of the things I desire, I looked at each of those things and wrote down the RESISTANT thoughts that I have about making each of those things happen.

And here are all of the thoughts that come up for me when I look at my list of desires for 2019…

I can’t afford it

I’m not self-disciplined enough

In the past it’s been too hard

Won’t I get bored?

Wow, that’s too much!

It’s frivolous to do that when I could be saving money instead.

This is selfish.

It will be hard work.

I’m not capable of that.

What if I don’t like it?

What will people think of me?

There will be consequences.

It’s expensive.

I don’t have the money.

What if it doesn’t work?

It will take a long time.

It’s not who I am. / That’s not the kind of person I am.

This doesn’t feel authentic to me.

I’ll probably fuck it up somehow.

Whew! I know those thoughts seem negative, and that’s the point. These are the thoughts that I observed coming to the surface when I looked at my list of desires and asked, “What resistant thoughts do I have to each of these dreams?”

Now here’s the fun part.

Once I’d written out the list of resistant thoughts, I looked at each resistant thought and TRANSFORMED it into a thought that will help me to feel the way I need to feel in order to take the actions I need to take in order to get the results that I want.

Here is my list of replacement thoughts:

The money is on it’s way

Abundance is flowing to me

I am doing everything in my power

I am in control of my thoughts and actions

I don’t need to be perfect

Good enough will get me there

My past is not my future

The universe is limitless

Feeling good magnetizes more of what I desire

Investing in ease is how I make space to achieve my potential

I love working towards my goals

Working towards my goals is fulfilling

I am already free

Working towards my ideal life brings me joy

The universe will meet me half way

I let go of the things I cannot control

I don’t need to know how to do everything

Everything happens for a reason

Living my dreams is good for the world

I can always change my mind

What people think of me is none of my business

The consequences of not trying are worse than “failing”

There is no such thing as failure, only lessons.

Money is infinite. There is always more.

Money flows.

Everything that brings me joy is worthwhile.

The only thing between me and my desires are my resistant thoughts

Everything will happen as it’s supposed to

I am limitless

My identity is not fixed

I am allowed to change and grow

I embrace all challenges in my path

We are spinning on a rock in endless space. Who cares if I fuck up?

My Word for 2019: Self-Discipline

My Word for 2019: Self-Discipline

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